Daddy Dearest and Daddy Don't

I frequently find myself torn on how to handle such a dilemma. More than anything we hope for the best when it comes to our children's fathers contributing to their well-being.But what do you do when you have three kids and two fathers? When you have one father who sends gifts,money and visits the child at his leisure and the other offers nothing.Is it fair to expect the minimally present dad to consider the feelings of your other children,when he decides to play dad to his own? I believe there should be an unspoken code of conduct when it comes to a situation such as this. I'm sure that if you grew up in a household with siblings,you remember what it felt like when one was rewarded for some great accomplishment and you were left empty-handed. If you were part of a blended family,I 'm sure you can recall a time when a siblings father came to take them on an outing and you were left behind. The emotional pain a child experiences when a parent is absent is unfair,it ruins self esteem and it causes our children to fill that void in damaging ways.I believe that while a man is not obligated to care for a child that is not his own, it is the honorable thing to do if it is within his means. I am not speaking of paying for your other children's college tuition here or paying for prom.What I am suggesting is, if he is planning to send a package to his child,why not include an extra book or card for the others.It will go a long way in repairing the self worth of the other children involved. I am a strong believer of karma,and the good you do for the benefit of others,will come back to you.