Round and Round ...Back to Child Support We Go!

                       It boggles my mind the lengths "men" will go to to avoid paying support. At first I thought it was an epidemic only women of certain socioeconomic statuses had to deal with;you know,those of us struggling to make ends meet living at or below poverty level. I was surprised to see women like Sheree Whitfield,of RHOA fame,fighting her ex (former NFL player) husband for support.In a strange sort of way I found solace in knowing that  I was not a statistic, but part of a larger sisterhood of mothers.
                       My fight for child support has spanned over a decade and I am not sure why it has had to come to this. I have 3 children and I am dealing with 2 deadbeat fathers.The first father has 7 children total including my 2,and the second had 3 children including my 1.(Not to mention the second baby daddy went on to father another child after my youngest.)
                       It has always amazed me how a man's perception of a woman changes once a child has been conceived.Somehow,somewhere along the way,if the woman chooses to do the right thing and keep the child,she becomes the enemy;as if she laid down and made the child all by herself.Once the child is born,they seem to view the child not as being of their own flesh,but as dollar signs slipping through their fingers. It wouldn't be so bad if cordial conversation could be had,but all too often they avoid all avenues of communication in an effort to either keep their manipulative schemes to themselves or as a means to hurt the mother;not realizing it's not the mother who is missing out, but he is depriving himself of formative years and milestones that he can never get back.
                       I'm sure there are some mothers out there who create a stigma that makes it harder for the rest of us.But there are some of us,like myself,who live for their children and places their welfare as priority number one.I don't know the last time I have made a purchase for myself for this very reason. I often find myself frustrated thinking what my children could have if the fathers paid their share.
                      Going back and forth to child support court would never be what I'd choose in an ideal situation,but unfortunately,it's a necessity if you want justice for your child(ren).My children are presently 10,8, and 3.They are not old enough to demand in a court of law what they are entitled to,so until then,I must advocate for them.